hiya everyone. I haven't been on here for a few days. We had a huge row with my partners brother over the internet, my partner and his brother we're about to throw punches when their mother jumped in between all because we told his brother he couldn't have the laptop for 1 night. So İ decided it wasn't worth the hassle but now he can go fuck hımself. I been trying to go round and read everyones posts and catch up with everyone (easier said than done).

The last 2 days have been spent arguing with the old dragon again (the mother in law, from now on thats her new name) because I got pissed off with her telling me how to look after my daughter all the time. She spent the whole day telling me to put slippers on my daughter when the weathers boiling hot here, so I had a moan to my partner and he told her not to do anything with our daughter don't change her nappy, don't get her dressed, don't touch her. So she got her arse in her hand and wouldn't speak to me again. A typical man relaying the message wrong to his mother and putting what I said out of context. I didn't say for her not to touch her or not do anything with her. It all came to a head yesterday when I told him to get the suitcases I'd had enough I was going. His mother had spent the day stomping back and forth the hall and slamming things down and I'd had it. She didn't want us to leave so she changed her ways.

My partners started smoking again because of all the stress, he can't handle it much longer. He's treated like the personal slave here. He does all the cooking and tidying and his mother and brother do nothing. His mothers always slagging him off to everyone that he don't help her when she does nothing. Things are better between us since he started smoking again, we're not arguing as much. Not really very good when u only been married for nearly 3 months. The last time we argued with his mother she took the gold we had given to us when we got married because we owe them money. In Turkey your given gold and money when u get married because its like an investment, if your short of money you sell the gold. She knows we have no money but she didn't even give us the chance to get ourselves home and set ourselves up and then pay them back. She's had all the money we were given aswell. We haven't had a proper wedding yet only the ceremony no party we plan to have that next year. The thing is no one at home knows we got married only my mum.

I spoke to the solicitor last week and she still hadn't sent the application for the visa because she had been ill in bed all weekend. Nothing to do with it being a bank holiday weekend then? So hopefully next week we'll recieve the application. The good news is that she said all the papers İ sent were fine. So thats something to be thankful for. I can't take the stress much longer!!!!!!!!!!